And with it a whole new pile of resolutions, plans, good intentions, desires, aims and ambitions. Things to take up, things to give up, new things to learn, old habits to lose, etc. I know that as ever, most of them won’t actually materialise in the way I’d like, but it’s good to have something to aim for (or at), isn’t it?
So, although I know that I’ll probably regret this, here comes a list:
- Maintain the bullet journal/diary
I can’t even begin to explain how much this has helped me over the past year. I don’t think I would have been half as efficient without it. I now have two jobs, plus the creative side. I have my mother living with me, a partner, three cats and a large house to maintain in some sort of order. Keeping the journal for 2017 (although I didn’t start it until about May) has meant that I have never turned up at the wrong job (or the right job on the wrong day), never missed an appointment, never – well only once – failed to be home when a planned visitor arrived, and have managed to keep a much better eye on my finances (although they are still pitiful by most people’s standards), at least now I know exactly where I stand at all times.
- Learn new skills.
This is an ongoing thing with me, there is always stuff I NEED to know how to do. I’ve already started this year by learning how to loom knit – it’s so quick and easy and you can turn out really nice things. I can see this being an ongoing learning curve itself. Traditional knitting is just not my thing – I can’t do it, never get the row counting right, and always end up with a triangle as my knitting always, always grows. Long live the loom!
- Be nicer
Yep, I’m aware that should have been number one on the list, if I was any sort of human at all, but I’m not going to edit it just to look like a better person. I’m going to try and follow Maya Angelou’s advice about the four questions. Apparently these are the questions all humans are subconsciously asking, all of the time. If you can demonstrate by your actions that your answers are positive, you will be making people feel happier, and more valued. The questions are:
- Do you see me?
- Do you care that I’m here?
- Am I enough for you, or do you need me to be better in some way?
- Can I tell that I’m special to you by the way that you look at me?
The other part of being nice is being more honest, but in a more gentle way. This is going to take a lot of work. A. lot. Of. Work.
4. Make more art
That’s a loose definition for me. I include in it the dolls, the jewellery, the little paintings, anything that grabs my attention and forces me to think hard and problem-solve and produce something interesting or attractive. I do this for my own sanity, and I know that this year, in spite of working more, I’m going to need more time for this because without it I can’t really see the point in any of the rest.
So that’s it. My great plan to conquer 2018. It’s is in fact, very similar to my great plan to conquer 2017, and the one for 2016, and nearly all the years before that. I’ve never felt at the end of the year that I did my best all the way through it. I always resolve to try harder. And I always fail. But I’m human. I try. And I can live with that.